Purpose: Find the rules you never agreed to, and see whether they still earn their place.
When to use: Use this when you feel like you are failing at something nobody asked of you.
Worksheet prompts
- Write down three of your rules.
Start each one with I should, I have to, or I must. - Where did the loudest one come from? Who taught it to you?
- What happens inside you when you break it?
- How would you rewrite it so it fits the life you have now?
Try: I would like to… or It helps when I…
A rule you can look at is a rule you get some say in.