Purpose: Look at what is sitting under the anger, so you can deal with the real thing.
When to use: Use this once the heat has come down a bit, not while you are still shouting.
Worksheet prompts
- What are you angry about? Say it plainly.
- What else might be under it?
- If the quieter one had a voice, what would it say?
- What would help that quieter part, rather than the anger?
The anger was doing a job. It helps to know which one.