Purpose: Find the softer feeling that your anger tends to show up in front of.
When to use: Use this when you have a quiet half hour and one recent blow-up in mind.
Worksheet prompts
- When the anger came, what was sitting underneath it?
- If you had said the softer thing instead, what would it have sounded like?
Start with: What I actually felt was… - Who in your life is safe enough to hear that version?
The softer thing is usually the truer thing. It takes more courage, not less.